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Today, I celebrate another birthday. So many of us openly speak out about our struggle with ageing, so I wanted to celebrate the day with the 4 things I love about it.

I Know F&ck All – The older I get, the less I know. The younger version of me was black and white and very judgemental. I knew everything! As I get older I have lost this judgement towards people and situations (and towards myself). I started to realise that you can never understand someone unless you walk in their shoes and, as I age, I am choosing to watch, observe and learn. This makes me more curious about life and, as a result, I am creating a life where I am open to new experiences (and people).  My blog Why Life Is Better When I Am Wrong is probably a good explanation about this. Remaining curious almost feels like being a child again, experiencing the world in a new way as if for the first time.

I have recently found myself using my Lumina phone case a little too much. If anyone has one you will know you look much much better when you use them to take a selfie. Not that I’m usually one for taking a selfie but when I started using it, I found myself feeling like a child again, to be precise I was feeling like 4-year-old Jasmine.

If I think about who I was as a 4-year-old, I was:

  • Fearless
  • Bossy
  • Determined
  • Confident
  • Kind
  • Silly 
  • And basically, I didn’t care what people thought of me.

I was with a friend last week when she looked at me and said “the one thing I love about you Jasmine is that you don’t judge anyone or anything”. 

It was like music to my ears, as this hasn’t always been the case. Up until a few years ago, I was Miss Judgement until one day I realised my judgement was just a reflection of  how I felt about myself. I had spent a good thirty years being incredibly critical of myself and others.

If only it did!

I recently had a night out in Brooklyn, New York. The night involved me attending a number of bars and clubs, and arriving home at the time I usually get up at to go to the gym. I was telling someone about the night and her response was, "I didn't think you did that anymore."

I was describing how much fun I had seeing new places and creating new experiences (which btw I will continue to do until I am on my death bed) so I was a bit taken back by the comment.

Prior to becoming self-aware, I was the girl who lived life at a million percent. Looking back, my life was lived out of habit (and pace) rather than awareness and intent.

What are the benefits in becoming self-aware:

  • It gives you the ability to take responsibility for your decisions, actions and feelings rather than simply reacting (out of habit)
  • You learn to truly love and accept yourself; you realise the negative talk you tell yourself is not really you
  • You learn that happiness isn't the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them
  • You start to understand that how someone treats you is a reflection of them, but how you react is a reflection of you
  • You start to live courageously; fear becomes something you take on rather than avoid
  • You start to understand that when life gets or feels uncomfortable it is an opportunity for growth

I have been reading a lot of Osho's work lately. He is a spiritual leader from the 70's. I love his work, it is very uncomfortable to read (at times) as it really challengers your beliefs (which is what I love about him).

I have written about accepting your feelings before and often say "what we resist, persists". Similarly, when Osho talks about intimacy he describes the "resisting feeling" in a very simple way.

The world of self improvement, self development and self help is incredible. I have learnt the most amazing lessons through its community and can honestly say my life has changed for the better because of it. However, recently I've noticed some fairly interesting approaches from spiritual leaders offering or preaching advice.

As a coach aspiring to be a spiritual leader, my goal is to help people be the best version of themselves. I don't believe in making someone perfect. There is no such thing. I believe that coaching someone is teaching or helping them learn how to love their imperfect self and love themselves unconditionally.

I don't believe in regret, but something happened this week that made me regret how I have been thinking and behaving over the last few years.

I want to share it with you, because change is always possible.

In my last blog I talked about being on my gap year and letting life play out rather than forcing decisions. As part of this process, I realised this week how much restriction I've placed around what I thought I should be doing, what I thought I wanted and how I wanted my life to be.

I want to share with you something that has been a game changer for me.

In the last few months I have decided to take on all my fears and get out of my comfort zone. In the past I would have tried to control a situation so that I got what I thought I wanted or I would have been so overwhelmed with fear that I stayed in my comfort zone.

We all know that feeling, our gut instinct. Last week I had something happen that upset me. I had hired someone to do a job for me but it didn't feel right. It was a feeling. When the work came back from the person I had hired it wasn't what I wanted. I had to work out whether I was upset at the work or the fact that my gut feeling told me not to hire them and I ignored that feeling.


I believe most people in our life are either a mirror or a teacher. A 'mirror' being someone that has similar behaviour traits to you but you deny you are anything like them. These people keep appearing in your life until you accept that trait. A 'teacher' is someone who brings out feelings that make you feel uncomfortable. These feelings are being exposed because they are feelings that need to be resolved.

There are however, occasions when people in our life don't play either of these roles.

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